In both my professional and personal life, I’ve frequently faced the challenge of addressing complex issues. My approach typically involves a deep dive into the problem, but I’ve noticed a common reluctance to address underlying causes in favor of quick fixes or shortcuts. This approach, though tempting, often fails to resolve the core issues and may even exacerbate them. I do not favor quick fixes and shortcuts and sometimes feel stressed with such approaches. Please don’t get me wrong. I am not obsessed with the problems where quick patches work. I like those intelligent shortcuts. I am talking about fundamental problems that require hard work or changes.

Through experience, I’ve learned that the most effective solutions are usually straightforward but demand patience, diligence, and self-discipline. The path of least resistance, often laden with shortcuts, has repeatedly led me back to square one, forcing me to restart the process.

A significant revelation came during a period of meditation: the stress I experienced was self-generated, stemming from my attempts to change others who were resistant to change. In fact, they might not even need to change at all, and my optimal solution might not be optimal for others. This realization prompted a shift in perspective – I needed to focus on my own growth and set realistic boundaries for myself.

My strategy involves the following principles:

1. Offering Guidance, Not Solutions: When asked for help, I provide insights based on my knowledge but refrain from taking ownership of others’ problems. I view these interactions as learning opportunities, allowing for self-reflection and personal growth.
2. Focusing on Assigned Tasks: Professionally, I concentrate on specific problems assigned to me. While I naturally tend to view issues from a macro perspective, I’ve learned the importance of focusing on immediate, high-priority tasks. We can’t change/improve everything at once. It is the small steps that matter.
3. Setting Boundaries: I’ve recognized the necessity of establishing boundaries with those who consistently bring problems without a willingness to change. This approach allows for more productive interactions and gives me space to address my own challenges.
4. Prioritizing Personal Growth: Acknowledging the vastness of what I have yet to learn, I’ve decided to focus more on my development. While I remain empathetic towards others, finding a balance between external concerns and my personal goals is crucial.

Conclusion:

This blog post serves as a mental organization tool. The process of writing helps me sort through my thoughts, particularly under the pressures of problems beyond my control. My conclusion is to focus on what I can influence, prioritizing family, learning, and other high-value areas of my life while minimizing the unnecessary transfer of stress from external sources.